I am a big advocate of personal accountability.
It’s a characteristic I’ve long admired in others, and I think it’s essential when we talk about achieving happiness. My life improved dramatically when I started looking to myself for positive solutions instead of trying to pin the blame on someone or something when anything wasn’t going my way.
Of course, there are scenarios in which we have no control. And they can be tragic, difficult and totally not fair. In these moments, we can’t always control the outcome. All we can manage is how we respond to the situation.
If you make a habit of taking ownership over your actions, your emotions and your life, you build character strength. More and more, you discover your potential to handle adversity, overcome obstacles and even move past great despair.
Personal Accountability: Be Strong
I read an article the other day about mental health and self-care.
One of the points the article touched on: resilience. I loved it, and it struck such a chord with me.
People who strive to take care of their physical health are often taking care of their mental and emotional health as well. The balance isn’t always perfect, and it looks different for everyone. But I find more often than not, these people are happier and more resilient. They are taking ownership over something important to them and making it their responsibility. Not because they have to but because they want to. Ownership is a privilege, and they’re choosing to honor it. They’re holding themselves personally accountable.
That means they’re able to take control and do something to improve the situation. They aren’t helplessly wallowing and waiting for better luck or someone else to help. They’re taking action. Accountability is power!
Check out this great article: “7 Truths About Accountability”
The Power to Be Happy
I recently found myself in a very frustrating situation. I spent a few days angry, lashing out and blaming the person I held responsible. Then I cooled off, stepped back and asked, “How did I get here? What role did I play in this?”
Everything changed. I acknowledged my own faults and mistakes, and I felt empowered to create a solution. I also felt happier knowing that I could solve the problem. And even if it didn’t work out right away, I was strong enough to figure it out.
Taking ownership is like forming any other habit: You just have to keep trying. Nutrition, workouts, career, personal relationships—it all applies.
Be responsible for that which you can, own it and be stronger for it.
Recently, the figure show I was training for was cancelled. It was incredibly frustrating to change my plan. But I’m not going to mope. I’m going to make the best of it, and I’ve committed to a show in May. I share all my thoughts in my new vlog!